Sooo it’s been a while since I’ve written one of these, mainly b/c I haven’t been feeling inspired for the longest time now and I’ve been too busy procrastinating anyway 😂 but I genuinely appreciate the few people that have asked me when I’m going to post again (when I say a few I mean like 2 people 😂).
But annyyywaayy I want to start off by saying R.I.P to Mac Miller, his music has been the soundtrack to one of the best parts of my life (the latter part of 2016💕) so b/c of the sentimental value his music held, it cut deep.
Something that stood out for me was all the messages I saw on Twitter & IG – full of love, support and appreciation, not only towards his art but to him as a person and it was clear he had touched and positively influenced everyone that had the chance of meeting him and I couldn’t help but think how could someone with so many people behind him feel so alone?
I think it’s because we often wait until it’s too late to tell people the things we should’ve, while it still mattered, when it still had a chance to have an impact on their thinking & opinion of themselves.
There’s no definite way of knowing someone needs help and often those that need help the most, never show it, which is why I can’t stress enough how important it is to check up on your loved ones, make it comfortable for them to talk to you and allow them to open up, it’s not always easy and you might not always win but sometimes just showing them you care and that you believe their feelings and thoughts matter, is all it takes.
There’s no one thing that causes us to become depressed which is why there is no ‘more valid’ reason to be depressed. Sometimes people may make you feel as if you shouldn’t be depressed over issues they deem to be ‘small’ and you’ll often hear people advising you to “Man up” or “Get over it, it’s not that big of a deal” . This happens with males being told that they need to be strong b/c showing any sign of emotion is deemed as weak and females being told they’re “too emotional” for feeling a certain way when in fact this couldn’t be more false; as humans we were made to feel, acknowledging your feelings is being a functioning healthy human, talking & being honest about things you’re struggling with or things that affect you in any way is one of the most courageous things you can do and absolutely no one can invalidate it.
We all experience things differently, the storyline may be similar but the experience could be completely different, none of us are the same so we don’t handle things the same way, in the same manner, what takes you 2 days to get over may take someone 3 months to overcome & that’s simply b/c we process things differently.
Sometimes we tend to overthink ourselves into a state of dispair & the more you think of something the more you start believing it & when you truly believe something it has no option but to manifest, that’s simply the power of the mind. Now I’m not saying that you can think yourself out of debt or think your problems away but when our thinking becomes more positive, we begin to take the power away from our situation/problem and it doesn’t seem as challenging anymore b/c we start believing in our ability to overcome.
But an important think to remember, beyond changing your thinking, is that sometimes you’ll feel overwhelmed and if you ever do, please talk to someone, we were not made to deal with everything on our own and not every thing can be solved on our own, sometimes all you need is a new perspective, someone to shed light on a situation, someone to offer you a doorway out of the box in which you feel so trapped or sometimes simply just assurance, someone to tell you something you already knew but just never fully believed.
The world can be a cruel and often unforgiving place and people tend to make sure you never forget your mistakes and it can become a burden b/c being constantly reminded of the past hinders your ability to move forward, as difficult as it may be, you need to acknowledge your mistakes, forgive yourself and move on, you may stumble again but you need to take it as a lesson and try your best to not repeat those mistakes.
Another thing to remember is to be kind, we all have days where we’re in a bad mood or just simply not in the mood for people 🤦🏾♀️ but try as hard as possible to be kind to everyone you meet, everyone’s going through something and we often underestimate the impact we have on people as strangers, someone could be having the worst day and a kind gesture from you could completely change that.
Life, however, happens to the best of us and it’s often a rollercoaster filled with amazing highs and tragic lows so it’s important for us to be the best people we can be to those around us, tell the people you appreciate why you appreciate them, remind those around you that they matter and their feelings matter too, comment on things you like, show your love and support every time you get the opportunity to and do it all while it can have the greatest impact, right now! Also keep in mind that we’re human, we were not meant to be perfect, we can’t always be strong and we won’t always be okay and that’s okay!
I pray that you never forget that you are worthy of life, love, support & happiness.
Have a blessed week ahead xx